Personally I like them, I like being on a Russian server and being on an even playing field. It would seem in my opinion that they solve a ton of problems, say for instance a squad of 8 with good internet, close to a server fights a team of 8 players spread world wide, who is gonna win, before destroyers it would be the team in the same area close to the server why the can use small ships in swarming tactics and react faster do to there advantage in ping. Now with destroyers its the best tactical position, team compisition,and focused fire that wins.
Server load, I feel that destroyers place less of a load on the servers because they a slow and big, less movement means less load on the server but I my be wrong.
So it is expansion of the game you want, this allows the devs, to use the server space more efficiently thus more room for players.
For all of you small ship lovers they still work to, An ecm or a kite can wreck a destroyer
Adapt or die, but one way or another put on your big boy pants and quit crying no amount of tears will make destroyers go away